Relationships

Sometimes people are well aware of who hurt them in the past or present. Often becoming self-aware (through doing understanding the past and inner child work) brings to the surface resentments long held but not consciously recognized. All hurts must be forgiven. Not to forgive is to sentence self to a ceaseless cycle of pain. Therefore it is important to know what forgiveness means and what it does not mean.

We do not have relationships. We are our relationships. The quality of our lives is a direct reflection of our ability to initiate and participate in healthy relationships. Everyone wants love in his or her lives. But loving and making relationships work are two totally different things. Here we look at key elements of what it takes to make relationships work.

Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is essential for achieving a reasonably happy life. Bad boundaries - and the anguish they cause - are the result of acting out of flawed and unhealthy self-understanding. Bad boundaries come from "old lies." Healthy boundary setting comes from and is made possible by replacing the "old lie" with a new truth.

Understand why we choose certain relationships. Recognizing why relationships fail or succeed. Making decisions. Understanding the nature of male/female dependency. Healing after hurting and how to get on with your life.

But meeting this need can only happen within the context of relationships. Learn what makes relationships work or fail, what skills are necessary and how those skills are gained. No nonsense facts about relationships, seeing and recognizing the differences between partners, basics of communication and communication techniques, Conflict resolution along with self-esteem, straight talk and anger.

Understanding how the opposite sexes understand love, themselves, and life can greatly reduce stress in a relationship.

What can be done. Your own involvement, involvement of Partner and 5 bonding behaviors in a relationship.

Acceptance is the first key. Closure means death. Understanding the myths around divorce, difficulties that arise if the divorce is not handled well.

Societal messages. Reversing the stereotype. Steps that help and a serious look at the rewards of doing such work.

Why relationships work and how to make them work. Building happy relationships can be understood. Skills, dealing with getting stuck and waiting and communication techniques.

Popular author and workshop leader Earnie Larsen offers clear and practical techniques for couples and families who have faced the issue of addiction and are now striving to bring health and vitality to their relationships. In his earlier book, Stage II Recovery, Larsen introduced the idea that making relationships work is at the heart of full recovery from addictions.

In Stage II Relationships, he explores this theme in depth, offering sound advice and practical techniques for breaking unhealthy patterns of behavior that linger after sobriety has been achieved. Larsen stresses that abstaining chemically dependent people and those who love them (co-dependents) must face together the issues of self-esteem and intimacy, the problems of everyday living, and the challenge of learning to function more capably in healthy, caring relationships.

For all the magic and mystery of relationships, all the chemistry, a basic truth is that relationships are as healthy as the people involved. Relationships take skills, not just good will. This book is a must for people wanting to find and keep real love in their lives. If you're not 100% satisfied we will refund every penny of the book no questions asked and you can still keep the book.

In this program, Earnie offers the group a balance between keeping one's head in treatment and developing the skills to rebuild family relationships and make them healthy and lasting. © 1989 Time: 34:00

• Relapse (V201) - Reg. $200
• Family (V202) - Reg. $200
• Doing a 4th & 5th Step (V203) - Reg. $200
• Seeking and Finding Your Higher Power (V204) - Reg. $200
• Unresolved Anger (V205) - Reg. $200

We can learn the dynamics of healthy and unhealthy relationships and how to prosper in intimacy. © 1985 Time: 27:15

It takes effort. Knowing what you are doing. The more we understand what our relationships are about and the more conscious effort we are willing to put into our relationships, the better our chances will be of getting what we want. Comes with a guidebook. © 1989 Time: 3+ hrs

• Stage II, Part 1 (V101) - Reg. $200
• Stage II, Part 2 (V102) - Reg. $200
• Relationships (V103) - Reg. $200
• Working a Program (V104) - Reg. $200

• Taking Personal Responsibility - Fighting the Good Fight (V601) - Reg. $200
• Avoiding the Slips - Working a Program of Inches (V602) - Reg. $200
• Building Up Our Self-Esteem - Where Giants Walk (V603) - Reg. $200
• Rage is Optional - Learning to Deal With Our Rage and Anger (V604) - Reg. $200

Regardless of where we came from, what our parents did or didn't do to or for us, what about us now? What do we need to do now? Where we live is up to us! ©1993 Time: 31.57