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There is a common process going on behind every label (such as dry drunk, co-dependant, shame based, adult child etc.) That process is the cause of most of the pain in our lives. Understanding that process is the foundation for moving from self-defeating actions to those of self-acceptance and self-love. Learning self-love is a process just as learning self-contempt is a process. The first four sessions of these on-line seminars provides a foundation that teaches this process and provides the "road map" for personally embracing and understanding this process in the context of our lives.

Coming to grips with our powerful past is difficult for many people. For many the task seems beyond their power and energy. Understanding the "rules of the road" in doing this inner child work however has freed up many people to go forward in this all-important piece of work.

Concrete steps are provided here to act as sign posts along the way of this inner journey. Here is a road map of how to do the work and where it fits in with the overall goal of replacing the learned "old lie" with a new truth born of self-compassion. All personal growth is involved with moving from self-defeating beliefs and behaviors to those of self-compassion and self-love.

Letting go of what holds us back is a supreme act of self-compassion. But letting go of what hurts us is often no easy task. If it were we would have done it long ago. Here are concrete steps of discovering WHAT we need to let go of and WHY it is important and HOW to accomplish this critical step as we move along the process of passing to a deeper spiritual freedom.

The double bind: 1) All I ever wanted was to be loved 2) The enormous obstacles to achieving that love. What can be done to break the cycle and a message of help and hope.

The effects of that wound show up in our present life in a variety of ways though the original wound may be years or decades old. Some people say, "let sleeping dogs lie" but we know these dogs aren't sleeping. Are you suffering the effects of long ago hurt, are you tired of making the same old disastrous decisions based on false trauma-driven data, are you willing, with help, to face deep fear, guilt and shame and are you willing to finally learn self-understanding, self-forgiveness and self-compassion. We guarantee a safe, supportive atmosphere to begin or continue this work of deep healing.

Why Inner Child work is so important and how the Inner Child becomes Adult Children issue. How grief, anger, fear and shame are rooted in the Inner Child. What "healing" the Inner Child means and how to escape your past and why there is always hope.

With Destination Joy, best-loved author Earnie Larsen provides friendly and expert roadside assistance to weary travelers on recovery's path. Whether you've hit an obstacle in your recovery from addiction, you're experiencing periodic relapse, or you're simply longing for something more, here is a true and certain guide to living more abundantly in recovery. In sharing many different stories of recovering people and the various paths they have taken, Larsen explores ways you can bring greater love, acceptance, and belonging into your life.

• The New Face of Courage (V901) - Reg. $200
• Making Relationships Work Now (V902) - Reg. $200

If childhood trauma is part of a recovering person's "experience" then they must take that into account to finding serenity. And then to offer "strength and hope" to those coming along behind them. © 2007 Time: 27:00

Set of 5 videos containing the following titles;

• The Basics (V801) - Reg. $200
• Working The Steps (V802) - Reg. $200
• Emotional Management (V803) - Reg. $200
• Working Your Personal Program (V804) - Reg. $200
• Healing The Deeper Hurt...Stage III Recovery (V805) - Reg. $200

War is continual trauma. War changes people. The qualities necessary to be successful in war become the same qualities that often block successful reintegration after the war. For many this successful reintegration requires a new face of courage for the new kind of battle that recovering from war is. © 2007 Time: 28:25

Real change comes from an in depth replacing the "old lie" with a new truth. This new internalized new truth creates a different definition of self than was possible while operating from the "old lie." No one can out perform their own self- image. The task is to make sure our self- image is positive.

We are all seeded in the past. Our "old lies" were internalized in the past. Unconsciously those "old lies" became the "rails" the train of our lives traveled on. They and the decisions made from them became our "normal." Identifying what those "old lies" are, where they came from and how they gained such power in our lives is a great help in letting them go and moving on.

Coming to grips with a "lie" we have internalized about ourselves that becomes the data upon which our decisions are made. Bad data equals bad decisions which always leads to painful consequences.

The more focused the practice, the more efficient the change. Effective programs are concrete, practical and focused.

How practicing the 12 Steps enables us to function more successfully in loving relationships. How the 12 Steps teach us to love.

Knowledge is power. It is never too late for an Adult Child to close the door on the past and learn to move ahead with courage and confidence. Examining the Adult Child Syndrome itself, assessing your own family of origin, understanding the relationships between feelings and recovery, recognizing the characteristic problem patterns of Adult Children in personal relationships and examples of successful re-direction.

Explains how anger is a process that keeps the individual enclosed in a cycle of frustrated recovery efforts. It includes how anger blocks recovery, the faces of anger, depression and grief as "children of anger," indecision as choosing to stay stuck and meditations to speed healing.

Sixteen easy to listen to segments centering on everything a person needs to do to reach their first sober birthday. Each short segment reminds, encourages and supports the person to "keep on keeping on." This series is a must for everyone going through his or her first sober year.

Societal messages. Reversing the stereotype. Steps that help and a serious look at the rewards of doing such work.

How past patterns create present day problems. Techniques for making it personal. Definitions of the co-dependency cycle and why there is always hope.

This series starts with a discussion of these needs, and from there investigates the range of self-defeating, learned behaviors that prevent these needs from being met. It includes Family of origin work, understanding co-dependency, recognizing habits and how they affect us, understanding the dynamics of change, how to work a program that will work for you and learning the dynamics of relationships.

The high price of unresolved anger. What habitual unresolved anger is. The definition of anger and how anger affects our relationships. What can I do about anger?

With Destination Joy, best-loved author Earnie Larsen provides friendly and expert roadside assistance to weary travelers on recovery's path. Whether you've hit an obstacle in your recovery from addiction, you're experiencing periodic relapse, or you're simply longing for something more, here is a true and certain guide to living more abundantly in recovery. In sharing many different stories of recovering people and the various paths they have taken, Larsen explores ways you can bring greater love, acceptance, and belonging into your life.

Those who plug into a solid aftercare program are less likely to relapse. During the first, all-important year of sobriety, clients will have questions about relapse, sponsorship, spirituality, and building a support network. With clarity and insight, Earnie Larsen serves as a personal recovery coach, offering words of wisdom and inspiration and practical advice to help clients develop and effective aftercare plan in this portable aftercare program.

Stage II Recovery is the answer. Earnie Larsen, a dynamic speaker and a pioneer thinker in the field of chemical dependency, says that sustained abstinence from an addiction is only the first stage of recovery. Real recovery begins with what he calls Stage II -- the rebuilding of the life that was saved in Stage I. This inspiring, practical guide offers breakthrough information on how to see and change learned self-defeating behavior and make relationships work -- which is at the core of full recovery.

Popular author and workshop leader Earnie Larsen offers clear and practical techniques for couples and families who have faced the issue of addiction and are now striving to bring health and vitality to their relationships. In his earlier book, Stage II Recovery, Larsen introduced the idea that making relationships work is at the heart of full recovery from addictions.

In Stage II Relationships, he explores this theme in depth, offering sound advice and practical techniques for breaking unhealthy patterns of behavior that linger after sobriety has been achieved. Larsen stresses that abstaining chemically dependent people and those who love them (co-dependents) must face together the issues of self-esteem and intimacy, the problems of everyday living, and the challenge of learning to function more capably in healthy, caring relationships.

Such as: stinkin' thinkin', avoidance of slippery people and places, things we must do, a bag of tricks, and a Power greater than ourselves. Know what we have to gain! © 1993 Time: 32:22

We learn the importance of dealing with life issues that remain for the addict after the addiction has been arrested: Every addict is always co-dependent, denial of these co-dependent issues invites relapse and denial easily leads to switched addictions in recovery. © 1991 Time: 29:26

Why Discouragement must always be confronted along the journey of growth. The several causes of Discouragement. And specific powerful strategies in overcoming Discouragement. © 1991 Time 29:00

What "Myths" are, what the five mistakes are and what healthy "shoulds" are. © 1991 Time: 28:54

• Five Myths that Sabotage Recovery (V401) - Reg. $200
• Dealing with Denial (V402) - Reg. $200
• Kissing Guilt & Shame Goodbye (V403) - Reg. $200

What guilt is and is not. How to recognize guilt when a shame attack strikes. And sure fire methods of avoiding falling prey to guilt. © 1991 Time: 28:57

Set of 3 videos containing the following titles;

• Building Self-Confidence (V501) - Reg. $200
• Overcoming Fear (V502) - Reg. $200
• Dealing With Discouragement (V503) - Reg. $200

• Relapse (V201) - Reg. $200
• Family (V202) - Reg. $200
• Doing a 4th & 5th Step (V203) - Reg. $200
• Seeking and Finding Your Higher Power (V204) - Reg. $200
• Unresolved Anger (V205) - Reg. $200

In this program, Earnie makes it abundantly clear that, although "slips" or relapses are serious, they are not fatal. The point in this session is that relapse will not occur if we work a tight, effective program. Earnie shos how to work an effective program, how to do the 10th Step and stay accountable for behaviors that could result in relapse. © 1989 Time: 34:15

The ability to turn our lives over to a power greater than ourselves. Not having had the experience of trusting or counting on someone being there for us becomes the primary spiritual obstacle. Earnie invites the group to build on the treatment experience as a beginning place to trust a power greater than ourselves...The Higher Power. ©1989 Time: 32:30

• Stage II, Part 1 (V101) - Reg. $200
• Stage II, Part 2 (V102) - Reg. $200
• Relationships (V103) - Reg. $200
• Working a Program (V104) - Reg. $200

• Taking Personal Responsibility - Fighting the Good Fight (V601) - Reg. $200
• Avoiding the Slips - Working a Program of Inches (V602) - Reg. $200
• Building Up Our Self-Esteem - Where Giants Walk (V603) - Reg. $200
• Rage is Optional - Learning to Deal With Our Rage and Anger (V604) - Reg. $200

What was the Solution to the Problem and how to work the Steps. Have we lost their vision? ©2007 Time: 25:00

Set of 5 videos containing the following titles;

• The Basics (V801) - Reg. $200
• Working The Steps (V802) - Reg. $200
• Emotional Management (V803) - Reg. $200
• Working Your Personal Program (V804) - Reg. $200
• Healing The Deeper Hurt...Stage III Recovery (V805) - Reg. $200

This involves dialogue, positive redirection, proper nutrition and other daily and weekly practices. This outlines a program and show its benefits in recovery. ©1985 Time: 31:00

This adds a dimension to the steps often missed today. Learn the connection between "working the Steps" and 'having a spiritual awakening.' © 2007 Time: 25:46

We are all seeded in the past. Our "old lies" were internalized in the past. Unconsciously those "old lies" became the "rails" the train of our lives traveled on. They and the decisions made from them became our "normal." Identifying what those "old lies" are, where they came from and how they gained such power in our lives is a great help in letting them go and moving on.

Coming to grips with a "lie" we have internalized about ourselves that becomes the data upon which our decisions are made. Bad data equals bad decisions which always leads to painful consequences.

Explains how anger is a process that keeps the individual enclosed in a cycle of frustrated recovery efforts. It includes how anger blocks recovery, the faces of anger, depression and grief as "children of anger," indecision as choosing to stay stuck and meditations to speed healing.

What are its causes? What can be done about it? How to defeat depression.

The high price of unresolved anger. What habitual unresolved anger is. The definition of anger and how anger affects our relationships. What can I do about anger?

With his typical humor and frankness, Earnie Larsen uncovers a proven strategy to identify resentment and anger, and move toward forgiveness. He shows us how to recognize different faces of anger, such as depression, cross-addiction, and rage, and then he teaches us how to reclaim the power anger has taken from us.

• Where Abusers Come From (V701) - Reg. $200
• How Abusers Think (V702) - Reg. $200
• How Abusers Create the Next Generation (V703) - Reg. $200
• How to Break the Patterns of Criminal Thinking (V704) - Reg. $200

What "Myths" are, what the five mistakes are and what healthy "shoulds" are. © 1991 Time: 28:54

• Five Myths that Sabotage Recovery (V401) - Reg. $200
• Dealing with Denial (V402) - Reg. $200
• Kissing Guilt & Shame Goodbye (V403) - Reg. $200

The fact of this generational conditioning to violence and abuse is stressed in this program. The point is strongly made that the next generation of abusers, with all the negative consequences that imply, is being created now at the hand of the client watching this program. Their responsibility for ending this cycle of destruction being visited on their children is clearly and strongly stated. Sharing of the women again greatly strengthens the point of the damage done to children by domestic violence. © 2000 Time: 29:07

At the heart of every habit is a truth learned by harsh experience. This program leads the client to identify the source of this criminal, cognitive impairment. Using the client's own experience of abuse as a starting point, they are led logically and systematically to understand through structured graphs how they perpetuate this habit of violence and abuse. The client is strongly challenged to confront this habit and put an end to it. The women's sharing powerfully attests to the damage done by the men who abuse them in a manner and to a depth as only victims can. © 2000 Time: 31:19

Being willing to face the presence and power of this habit and choosing another course can only accomplish breaking of the habit of abuse. Concrete structures and models are provided to accomplish both the cognitive restructuring and behavior modification to both break the habit of abuse and begin creating new habits of respect and control. The women's sharing both challenges and encourages the men to pursue this course of recovery. © 2000 Time: 30:06

Set of 3 videos containing the following titles;

• Building Self-Confidence (V501) - Reg. $200
• Overcoming Fear (V502) - Reg. $200
• Dealing With Discouragement (V503) - Reg. $200

The definition of Fear. The key in confronting old, learned Fear responses to reality. How to diminish the power of Fear to control our lives. © 1991 Time: 28:22

Why give our power away! Learn to work a quality program around this issue and build self-esteem. Change the film in our head! Practice, practice and more practice! Remember the story of David and Goliath! © 1993 Time: 34:04

• Relapse (V201) - Reg. $200
• Family (V202) - Reg. $200
• Doing a 4th & 5th Step (V203) - Reg. $200
• Seeking and Finding Your Higher Power (V204) - Reg. $200
• Unresolved Anger (V205) - Reg. $200

• Taking Personal Responsibility - Fighting the Good Fight (V601) - Reg. $200
• Avoiding the Slips - Working a Program of Inches (V602) - Reg. $200
• Building Up Our Self-Esteem - Where Giants Walk (V603) - Reg. $200
• Rage is Optional - Learning to Deal With Our Rage and Anger (V604) - Reg. $200

If unresolved anger is not dealt with during recovery, relapse often occurs. Working with this video program will ultimately bring release from the bondage that creates the want to abuse one's self in the first place. © 1989 Time: 33:00

Violence and abuse simply become normal. This program takes the client back to the time when they were the victims of abuse and forcefully states, as it was wrong for someone to abuse you so it is wrong for you to abuse anyone else, especially those who love and depend on you. The sharing of the women emphasizes this point with great emotional power. © 2000 Time: 28:30

Real change comes from an in depth replacing the "old lie" with a new truth. This new internalized new truth creates a different definition of self than was possible while operating from the "old lie." No one can out perform their own self- image. The task is to make sure our self- image is positive.

The more focused the practice, the more efficient the change. Effective programs are concrete, practical and focused.

Explains how anger is a process that keeps the individual enclosed in a cycle of frustrated recovery efforts. It includes how anger blocks recovery, the faces of anger, depression and grief as "children of anger," indecision as choosing to stay stuck and meditations to speed healing.

Grasping the secret of personal growth and self management. The secret of how success happens, basic principles of how to change and creating a personal program of change.

The power of goal setting. A seven-step program of goal setting and the educational value to children (to learn from their Parents how to set goals and why to set goals).

How to take control of our lives and stop giving our power away. It can be done if we know how. Learn the keys to feeling good or better about ourselves. "We do not see the world the way it is. We see the world the way we are." Get the conscious Connections of what we are trying to do and understanding why we do it. Know that Family of Origin and Inner Child work are very different realities. The spiritual core of every loving human being is a hunger for Love. If that core has not been adequately nourished early on, difficulties in achieving intimacy will always occur. I don't want to be Alone... Or Hurt. How is one to know if this time is a real chance for success or just a repeat of past hurt.

How past patterns create present day problems. Techniques for making it personal. Definitions of the co-dependency cycle and why there is always hope.

This series starts with a discussion of these needs, and from there investigates the range of self-defeating, learned behaviors that prevent these needs from being met. It includes Family of origin work, understanding co-dependency, recognizing habits and how they affect us, understanding the dynamics of change, how to work a program that will work for you and learning the dynamics of relationships.

The high price of unresolved anger. What habitual unresolved anger is. The definition of anger and how anger affects our relationships. What can I do about anger?

• The New Face of Courage (V901) - Reg. $200
• Making Relationships Work Now (V902) - Reg. $200

Whether the relationships are with self or others they require skills. These skills can be learned. They also can be blocked by deeply ingrained habits. Overcoming these blocking habits and rising up to new skills requires the highest kind of courage. © 2007 Time: 28:10

Sometimes people are well aware of who hurt them in the past or present. Often becoming self-aware (through doing understanding the past and inner child work) brings to the surface resentments long held but not consciously recognized. All hurts must be forgiven. Not to forgive is to sentence self to a ceaseless cycle of pain. Therefore it is important to know what forgiveness means and what it does not mean.

Letting go of what holds us back is a supreme act of self-compassion. But letting go of what hurts us is often no easy task. If it were we would have done it long ago. Here are concrete steps of discovering WHAT we need to let go of and WHY it is important and HOW to accomplish this critical step as we move along the process of passing to a deeper spiritual freedom.

Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is essential for achieving a reasonably happy life. Bad boundaries - and the anguish they cause - are the result of acting out of flawed and unhealthy self-understanding. Bad boundaries come from "old lies." Healthy boundary setting comes from and is made possible by replacing the "old lie" with a new truth.

Real change comes from an in depth replacing the "old lie" with a new truth. This new internalized new truth creates a different definition of self than was possible while operating from the "old lie." No one can out perform their own self- image. The task is to make sure our self- image is positive.

We are all seeded in the past. Our "old lies" were internalized in the past. Unconsciously those "old lies" became the "rails" the train of our lives traveled on. They and the decisions made from them became our "normal." Identifying what those "old lies" are, where they came from and how they gained such power in our lives is a great help in letting them go and moving on.

Coming to grips with a "lie" we have internalized about ourselves that becomes the data upon which our decisions are made. Bad data equals bad decisions which always leads to painful consequences.

The more focused the practice, the more efficient the change. Effective programs are concrete, practical and focused.

Knowledge is power. It is never too late for an Adult Child to close the door on the past and learn to move ahead with courage and confidence. Examining the Adult Child Syndrome itself, assessing your own family of origin, understanding the relationships between feelings and recovery, recognizing the characteristic problem patterns of Adult Children in personal relationships and examples of successful re-direction.

Why Inner Child work is so important and how the Inner Child becomes Adult Children issue. How grief, anger, fear and shame are rooted in the Inner Child. What "healing" the Inner Child means and how to escape your past and why there is always hope.

This series starts with a discussion of these needs, and from there investigates the range of self-defeating, learned behaviors that prevent these needs from being met. It includes Family of origin work, understanding co-dependency, recognizing habits and how they affect us, understanding the dynamics of change, how to work a program that will work for you and learning the dynamics of relationships.

Stage II Recovery is the answer. Earnie Larsen, a dynamic speaker and a pioneer thinker in the field of chemical dependency, says that sustained abstinence from an addiction is only the first stage of recovery. Real recovery begins with what he calls Stage II -- the rebuilding of the life that was saved in Stage I. This inspiring, practical guide offers breakthrough information on how to see and change learned self-defeating behavior and make relationships work -- which is at the core of full recovery.

• Where Abusers Come From (V701) - Reg. $200
• How Abusers Think (V702) - Reg. $200
• How Abusers Create the Next Generation (V703) - Reg. $200
• How to Break the Patterns of Criminal Thinking (V704) - Reg. $200

The fact of this generational conditioning to violence and abuse is stressed in this program. The point is strongly made that the next generation of abusers, with all the negative consequences that imply, is being created now at the hand of the client watching this program. Their responsibility for ending this cycle of destruction being visited on their children is clearly and strongly stated. Sharing of the women again greatly strengthens the point of the damage done to children by domestic violence. © 2000 Time: 29:07

At the heart of every habit is a truth learned by harsh experience. This program leads the client to identify the source of this criminal, cognitive impairment. Using the client's own experience of abuse as a starting point, they are led logically and systematically to understand through structured graphs how they perpetuate this habit of violence and abuse. The client is strongly challenged to confront this habit and put an end to it. The women's sharing powerfully attests to the damage done by the men who abuse them in a manner and to a depth as only victims can. © 2000 Time: 31:19

Being willing to face the presence and power of this habit and choosing another course can only accomplish breaking of the habit of abuse. Concrete structures and models are provided to accomplish both the cognitive restructuring and behavior modification to both break the habit of abuse and begin creating new habits of respect and control. The women's sharing both challenges and encourages the men to pursue this course of recovery. © 2000 Time: 30:06

We can learn the dynamics of healthy and unhealthy relationships and how to prosper in intimacy. © 1985 Time: 27:15

• Stage II, Part 1 (V101) - Reg. $200
• Stage II, Part 2 (V102) - Reg. $200
• Relationships (V103) - Reg. $200
• Working a Program (V104) - Reg. $200

What we must do to understand ourselves in order to enjoy a rich and fulfilling existence. © 1985 Time: 24:30

Such as caretaking, people-pleasing and workaholism to become more successful individuals. © 1985 Time: 35:00

Violence and abuse simply become normal. This program takes the client back to the time when they were the victims of abuse and forcefully states, as it was wrong for someone to abuse you so it is wrong for you to abuse anyone else, especially those who love and depend on you. The sharing of the women emphasizes this point with great emotional power. © 2000 Time: 28:30

This involves dialogue, positive redirection, proper nutrition and other daily and weekly practices. This outlines a program and show its benefits in recovery. ©1985 Time: 31:00

Letting go of what holds us back is a supreme act of self-compassion. But letting go of what hurts us is often no easy task. If it were we would have done it long ago. Here are concrete steps of discovering WHAT we need to let go of and WHY it is important and HOW to accomplish this critical step as we move along the process of passing to a deeper spiritual freedom.

Explains how anger is a process that keeps the individual enclosed in a cycle of frustrated recovery efforts. It includes how anger blocks recovery, the faces of anger, depression and grief as "children of anger," indecision as choosing to stay stuck and meditations to speed healing.

What are its causes? What can be done about it? How to defeat depression.

The high price of unresolved anger. What habitual unresolved anger is. The definition of anger and how anger affects our relationships. What can I do about anger?

It's important to understand that "sometimes feelings lie." Knowing the difference between the "old lie" and the "new truth" is critical to the kind of recovery the Founders envisioned. © 2007 Time: 29:20

Set of 5 videos containing the following titles;

• The Basics (V801) - Reg. $200
• Working The Steps (V802) - Reg. $200
• Emotional Management (V803) - Reg. $200
• Working Your Personal Program (V804) - Reg. $200
• Healing The Deeper Hurt...Stage III Recovery (V805) - Reg. $200

Sometimes people are well aware of who hurt them in the past or present. Often becoming self-aware (through doing understanding the past and inner child work) brings to the surface resentments long held but not consciously recognized. All hurts must be forgiven. Not to forgive is to sentence self to a ceaseless cycle of pain. Therefore it is important to know what forgiveness means and what it does not mean.

Connections of the heart means we can only heal what we allow ourselves to feel. Feeling can hurt...but beyond that hurt lies the source of profound joy. Expecting good versus settling for less, understanding our models..."Baby Flesh," techniques of finding our way home, other ways of connecting to our heart, setting healthy boundaries and letting go.

A basic flaw in dealing with emotions, understanding the difference between painful emotions and correct behavior, how to change the way you feel why support is critical and being gentle with yourself.

It's important to understand that "sometimes feelings lie." Knowing the difference between the "old lie" and the "new truth" is critical to the kind of recovery the Founders envisioned. © 2007 Time: 29:20

Set of 5 videos containing the following titles;

• The Basics (V801) - Reg. $200
• Working The Steps (V802) - Reg. $200
• Emotional Management (V803) - Reg. $200
• Working Your Personal Program (V804) - Reg. $200
• Healing The Deeper Hurt...Stage III Recovery (V805) - Reg. $200

We are all seeded in the past. Our "old lies" were internalized in the past. Unconsciously those "old lies" became the "rails" the train of our lives traveled on. They and the decisions made from them became our "normal." Identifying what those "old lies" are, where they came from and how they gained such power in our lives is a great help in letting them go and moving on.

Coming to grips with a "lie" we have internalized about ourselves that becomes the data upon which our decisions are made. Bad data equals bad decisions which always leads to painful consequences.

Knowledge is power. It is never too late for an Adult Child to close the door on the past and learn to move ahead with courage and confidence. Examining the Adult Child Syndrome itself, assessing your own family of origin, understanding the relationships between feelings and recovery, recognizing the characteristic problem patterns of Adult Children in personal relationships and examples of successful re-direction.

The double bind: 1) All I ever wanted was to be loved 2) The enormous obstacles to achieving that love. What can be done to break the cycle and a message of help and hope.

From the winter of our doubts and confusion and sadness we waken to a spring of the self-stirring anew. In the days of healing and joy that lie ahead, let this book of daily meditations speak to you, instilling hope and confidence and courage. A year's worth of quotations, meditations, and closing thoughts encourage the small but consistent efforts of those seeking to give voice to the often timid, unsure, and frightened child within. Each day, find in these pages the strength and wisdom and support that light the way to serenity in any season of life

• Where Abusers Come From (V701) - Reg. $200
• How Abusers Think (V702) - Reg. $200
• How Abusers Create the Next Generation (V703) - Reg. $200
• How to Break the Patterns of Criminal Thinking (V704) - Reg. $200

The fact of this generational conditioning to violence and abuse is stressed in this program. The point is strongly made that the next generation of abusers, with all the negative consequences that imply, is being created now at the hand of the client watching this program. Their responsibility for ending this cycle of destruction being visited on their children is clearly and strongly stated. Sharing of the women again greatly strengthens the point of the damage done to children by domestic violence. © 2000 Time: 29:07

At the heart of every habit is a truth learned by harsh experience. This program leads the client to identify the source of this criminal, cognitive impairment. Using the client's own experience of abuse as a starting point, they are led logically and systematically to understand through structured graphs how they perpetuate this habit of violence and abuse. The client is strongly challenged to confront this habit and put an end to it. The women's sharing powerfully attests to the damage done by the men who abuse them in a manner and to a depth as only victims can. © 2000 Time: 31:19

Being willing to face the presence and power of this habit and choosing another course can only accomplish breaking of the habit of abuse. Concrete structures and models are provided to accomplish both the cognitive restructuring and behavior modification to both break the habit of abuse and begin creating new habits of respect and control. The women's sharing both challenges and encourages the men to pursue this course of recovery. © 2000 Time: 30:06

Violence and abuse simply become normal. This program takes the client back to the time when they were the victims of abuse and forcefully states, as it was wrong for someone to abuse you so it is wrong for you to abuse anyone else, especially those who love and depend on you. The sharing of the women emphasizes this point with great emotional power. © 2000 Time: 28:30

Part 1 - Coming to grips with our powerful past is difficult for many people. For many the task seems beyond their power and energy. Understanding the “rules of the road” in doing this inner child work however has freed up many people to go forward in this all-important piece of work.

Part 2 - Concrete steps are provided here to act as sign posts along the way of this inner journey. Here is a road map of how to do the work and where it fits in with the overall goal of replacing the learned “old lie” with a new truth born of self-compassion. All personal growth is involved with moving from self-defeating beliefs and behaviors to those of self-compassion and self-love.

Coming to grips with our powerful past is difficult for many people. For many the task seems beyond their power and energy. Understanding the "rules of the road" in doing this inner child work however has freed up many people to go forward in this all-important piece of work.

Concrete steps are provided here to act as sign posts along the way of this inner journey. Here is a road map of how to do the work and where it fits in with the overall goal of replacing the learned "old lie" with a new truth born of self-compassion. All personal growth is involved with moving from self-defeating beliefs and behaviors to those of self-compassion and self-love.

The effects of that wound show up in our present life in a variety of ways though the original wound may be years or decades old. Some people say, "let sleeping dogs lie" but we know these dogs aren't sleeping. Are you suffering the effects of long ago hurt, are you tired of making the same old disastrous decisions based on false trauma-driven data, are you willing, with help, to face deep fear, guilt and shame and are you willing to finally learn self-understanding, self-forgiveness and self-compassion. We guarantee a safe, supportive atmosphere to begin or continue this work of deep healing.

Why Inner Child work is so important and how the Inner Child becomes Adult Children issue. How grief, anger, fear and shame are rooted in the Inner Child. What "healing" the Inner Child means and how to escape your past and why there is always hope.

Difference between Inner Child work and Family of Origin work. Techniques for healing of the Inner Child and Techniques for on-going healing of the Inner Child.

It's important to understand that "sometimes feelings lie." Knowing the difference between the "old lie" and the "new truth" is critical to the kind of recovery the Founders envisioned. © 2007 Time: 29:20

Set of 5 videos containing the following titles;

• The Basics (V801) - Reg. $200
• Working The Steps (V802) - Reg. $200
• Emotional Management (V803) - Reg. $200
• Working Your Personal Program (V804) - Reg. $200
• Healing The Deeper Hurt...Stage III Recovery (V805) - Reg. $200

Real change comes from an in depth replacing the "old lie" with a new truth. This new internalized new truth creates a different definition of self than was possible while operating from the "old lie." No one can out perform their own self- image. The task is to make sure our self- image is positive.

We are all seeded in the past. Our "old lies" were internalized in the past. Unconsciously those "old lies" became the "rails" the train of our lives traveled on. They and the decisions made from them became our "normal." Identifying what those "old lies" are, where they came from and how they gained such power in our lives is a great help in letting them go and moving on.

Coming to grips with a "lie" we have internalized about ourselves that becomes the data upon which our decisions are made. Bad data equals bad decisions which always leads to painful consequences.

The more focused the practice, the more efficient the change. Effective programs are concrete, practical and focused.

How practicing the 12 Steps enables us to function more successfully in loving relationships. How the 12 Steps teach us to love.

Knowledge is power. It is never too late for an Adult Child to close the door on the past and learn to move ahead with courage and confidence. Examining the Adult Child Syndrome itself, assessing your own family of origin, understanding the relationships between feelings and recovery, recognizing the characteristic problem patterns of Adult Children in personal relationships and examples of successful re-direction.

The double bind: 1) All I ever wanted was to be loved 2) The enormous obstacles to achieving that love. What can be done to break the cycle and a message of help and hope.

Explains how anger is a process that keeps the individual enclosed in a cycle of frustrated recovery efforts. It includes how anger blocks recovery, the faces of anger, depression and grief as "children of anger," indecision as choosing to stay stuck and meditations to speed healing.

Connections of the heart means we can only heal what we allow ourselves to feel. Feeling can hurt...but beyond that hurt lies the source of profound joy. Expecting good versus settling for less, understanding our models..."Baby Flesh," techniques of finding our way home, other ways of connecting to our heart, setting healthy boundaries and letting go.

A basic flaw in dealing with emotions, understanding the difference between painful emotions and correct behavior, how to change the way you feel why support is critical and being gentle with yourself.

This series starts with a discussion of these needs, and from there investigates the range of self-defeating, learned behaviors that prevent these needs from being met. It includes Family of origin work, understanding co-dependency, recognizing habits and how they affect us, understanding the dynamics of change, how to work a program that will work for you and learning the dynamics of relationships.

Stage II Recovery is the answer. Earnie Larsen, a dynamic speaker and a pioneer thinker in the field of chemical dependency, says that sustained abstinence from an addiction is only the first stage of recovery. Real recovery begins with what he calls Stage II -- the rebuilding of the life that was saved in Stage I. This inspiring, practical guide offers breakthrough information on how to see and change learned self-defeating behavior and make relationships work -- which is at the core of full recovery.

Such as: stinkin' thinkin', avoidance of slippery people and places, things we must do, a bag of tricks, and a Power greater than ourselves. Know what we have to gain! © 1993 Time: 32:22

What constitutes Self-Confidence. The key to building Self-Confidence and how to maintain a healthy Self-Confidence once it is attained. © 1991 Time: 29:19

Know that we matter and make such a difference in this world! We can't give what we don't have. We can be giants in our walk. Will we choose to live in the toilet or a palace? ©1993 Time: 32:22

• The New Face of Courage (V901) - Reg. $200
• Making Relationships Work Now (V902) - Reg. $200

We learn the importance of dealing with life issues that remain for the addict after the addiction has been arrested: Every addict is always co-dependent, denial of these co-dependent issues invites relapse and denial easily leads to switched addictions in recovery. © 1991 Time: 29:26

Why Discouragement must always be confronted along the journey of growth. The several causes of Discouragement. And specific powerful strategies in overcoming Discouragement. © 1991 Time 29:00

Over the years Earnie Larsen has heard thousands of 5th steps. What he shares in this tape are methods of doing the best possible 4th and 5th steps. © 1989 Time: 32:30

• Where Abusers Come From (V701) - Reg. $200
• How Abusers Think (V702) - Reg. $200
• How Abusers Create the Next Generation (V703) - Reg. $200
• How to Break the Patterns of Criminal Thinking (V704) - Reg. $200

It's important to understand that "sometimes feelings lie." Knowing the difference between the "old lie" and the "new truth" is critical to the kind of recovery the Founders envisioned. © 2007 Time: 29:20

In this program, Earnie offers the group a balance between keeping one's head in treatment and developing the skills to rebuild family relationships and make them healthy and lasting. © 1989 Time: 34:00

What "Myths" are, what the five mistakes are and what healthy "shoulds" are. © 1991 Time: 28:54

If childhood trauma is part of a recovering person's "experience" then they must take that into account to finding serenity. And then to offer "strength and hope" to those coming along behind them. © 2007 Time: 27:00

• Five Myths that Sabotage Recovery (V401) - Reg. $200
• Dealing with Denial (V402) - Reg. $200
• Kissing Guilt & Shame Goodbye (V403) - Reg. $200

The fact of this generational conditioning to violence and abuse is stressed in this program. The point is strongly made that the next generation of abusers, with all the negative consequences that imply, is being created now at the hand of the client watching this program. Their responsibility for ending this cycle of destruction being visited on their children is clearly and strongly stated. Sharing of the women again greatly strengthens the point of the damage done to children by domestic violence. © 2000 Time: 29:07

At the heart of every habit is a truth learned by harsh experience. This program leads the client to identify the source of this criminal, cognitive impairment. Using the client's own experience of abuse as a starting point, they are led logically and systematically to understand through structured graphs how they perpetuate this habit of violence and abuse. The client is strongly challenged to confront this habit and put an end to it. The women's sharing powerfully attests to the damage done by the men who abuse them in a manner and to a depth as only victims can. © 2000 Time: 31:19

Being willing to face the presence and power of this habit and choosing another course can only accomplish breaking of the habit of abuse. Concrete structures and models are provided to accomplish both the cognitive restructuring and behavior modification to both break the habit of abuse and begin creating new habits of respect and control. The women's sharing both challenges and encourages the men to pursue this course of recovery. © 2000 Time: 30:06

What guilt is and is not. How to recognize guilt when a shame attack strikes. And sure fire methods of avoiding falling prey to guilt. © 1991 Time: 28:57

Set of 3 videos containing the following titles;

• Building Self-Confidence (V501) - Reg. $200
• Overcoming Fear (V502) - Reg. $200
• Dealing With Discouragement (V503) - Reg. $200

Whether the relationships are with self or others they require skills. These skills can be learned. They also can be blocked by deeply ingrained habits. Overcoming these blocking habits and rising up to new skills requires the highest kind of courage. © 2007 Time: 28:10

The definition of Fear. The key in confronting old, learned Fear responses to reality. How to diminish the power of Fear to control our lives. © 1991 Time: 28:22

Why give our power away! Learn to work a quality program around this issue and build self-esteem. Change the film in our head! Practice, practice and more practice! Remember the story of David and Goliath! © 1993 Time: 34:04

• Relapse (V201) - Reg. $200
• Family (V202) - Reg. $200
• Doing a 4th & 5th Step (V203) - Reg. $200
• Seeking and Finding Your Higher Power (V204) - Reg. $200
• Unresolved Anger (V205) - Reg. $200

In this program, Earnie makes it abundantly clear that, although "slips" or relapses are serious, they are not fatal. The point in this session is that relapse will not occur if we work a tight, effective program. Earnie shos how to work an effective program, how to do the 10th Step and stay accountable for behaviors that could result in relapse. © 1989 Time: 34:15

We can learn the dynamics of healthy and unhealthy relationships and how to prosper in intimacy. © 1985 Time: 27:15

It takes effort. Knowing what you are doing. The more we understand what our relationships are about and the more conscious effort we are willing to put into our relationships, the better our chances will be of getting what we want. Comes with a guidebook. © 1989 Time: 3+ hrs

The ability to turn our lives over to a power greater than ourselves. Not having had the experience of trusting or counting on someone being there for us becomes the primary spiritual obstacle. Earnie invites the group to build on the treatment experience as a beginning place to trust a power greater than ourselves...The Higher Power. ©1989 Time: 32:30

• Stage II, Part 1 (V101) - Reg. $200
• Stage II, Part 2 (V102) - Reg. $200
• Relationships (V103) - Reg. $200
• Working a Program (V104) - Reg. $200

What we must do to understand ourselves in order to enjoy a rich and fulfilling existence. © 1985 Time: 24:30

Such as caretaking, people-pleasing and workaholism to become more successful individuals. © 1985 Time: 35:00

• Taking Personal Responsibility - Fighting the Good Fight (V601) - Reg. $200
• Avoiding the Slips - Working a Program of Inches (V602) - Reg. $200
• Building Up Our Self-Esteem - Where Giants Walk (V603) - Reg. $200
• Rage is Optional - Learning to Deal With Our Rage and Anger (V604) - Reg. $200

Regardless of where we came from, what our parents did or didn't do to or for us, what about us now? What do we need to do now? Where we live is up to us! ©1993 Time: 31.57

What was the Solution to the Problem and how to work the Steps. Have we lost their vision? ©2007 Time: 25:00

Set of 5 videos containing the following titles;

• The Basics (V801) - Reg. $200
• Working The Steps (V802) - Reg. $200
• Emotional Management (V803) - Reg. $200
• Working Your Personal Program (V804) - Reg. $200
• Healing The Deeper Hurt...Stage III Recovery (V805) - Reg. $200

War is continual trauma. War changes people. The qualities necessary to be successful in war become the same qualities that often block successful reintegration after the war. For many this successful reintegration requires a new face of courage for the new kind of battle that recovering from war is. © 2007 Time: 28:25

If unresolved anger is not dealt with during recovery, relapse often occurs. Working with this video program will ultimately bring release from the bondage that creates the want to abuse one's self in the first place. © 1989 Time: 33:00

Violence and abuse simply become normal. This program takes the client back to the time when they were the victims of abuse and forcefully states, as it was wrong for someone to abuse you so it is wrong for you to abuse anyone else, especially those who love and depend on you. The sharing of the women emphasizes this point with great emotional power. © 2000 Time: 28:30

This involves dialogue, positive redirection, proper nutrition and other daily and weekly practices. This outlines a program and show its benefits in recovery. ©1985 Time: 31:00

This adds a dimension to the steps often missed today. Learn the connection between "working the Steps" and 'having a spiritual awakening.' © 2007 Time: 25:46

Connecting the dots between understanding "the solution" and creating a 'spiritual awakening' are important elements in establishing the kind of recovery as the Founders saw it. ©2007 Time: 28:00

Sometimes people are well aware of who hurt them in the past or present. Often becoming self-aware (through doing understanding the past and inner child work) brings to the surface resentments long held but not consciously recognized. All hurts must be forgiven. Not to forgive is to sentence self to a ceaseless cycle of pain. Therefore it is important to know what forgiveness means and what it does not mean.

We do not have relationships. We are our relationships. The quality of our lives is a direct reflection of our ability to initiate and participate in healthy relationships. Everyone wants love in his or her lives. But loving and making relationships work are two totally different things. Here we look at key elements of what it takes to make relationships work.

Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is essential for achieving a reasonably happy life. Bad boundaries - and the anguish they cause - are the result of acting out of flawed and unhealthy self-understanding. Bad boundaries come from "old lies." Healthy boundary setting comes from and is made possible by replacing the "old lie" with a new truth.

Understand why we choose certain relationships. Recognizing why relationships fail or succeed. Making decisions. Understanding the nature of male/female dependency. Healing after hurting and how to get on with your life.

But meeting this need can only happen within the context of relationships. Learn what makes relationships work or fail, what skills are necessary and how those skills are gained. No nonsense facts about relationships, seeing and recognizing the differences between partners, basics of communication and communication techniques, Conflict resolution along with self-esteem, straight talk and anger.

Understanding how the opposite sexes understand love, themselves, and life can greatly reduce stress in a relationship.

What can be done. Your own involvement, involvement of Partner and 5 bonding behaviors in a relationship.

Acceptance is the first key. Closure means death. Understanding the myths around divorce, difficulties that arise if the divorce is not handled well.

Societal messages. Reversing the stereotype. Steps that help and a serious look at the rewards of doing such work.

Why relationships work and how to make them work. Building happy relationships can be understood. Skills, dealing with getting stuck and waiting and communication techniques.

Popular author and workshop leader Earnie Larsen offers clear and practical techniques for couples and families who have faced the issue of addiction and are now striving to bring health and vitality to their relationships. In his earlier book, Stage II Recovery, Larsen introduced the idea that making relationships work is at the heart of full recovery from addictions.

In Stage II Relationships, he explores this theme in depth, offering sound advice and practical techniques for breaking unhealthy patterns of behavior that linger after sobriety has been achieved. Larsen stresses that abstaining chemically dependent people and those who love them (co-dependents) must face together the issues of self-esteem and intimacy, the problems of everyday living, and the challenge of learning to function more capably in healthy, caring relationships.

For all the magic and mystery of relationships, all the chemistry, a basic truth is that relationships are as healthy as the people involved. Relationships take skills, not just good will. This book is a must for people wanting to find and keep real love in their lives. If you're not 100% satisfied we will refund every penny of the book no questions asked and you can still keep the book.

In this program, Earnie offers the group a balance between keeping one's head in treatment and developing the skills to rebuild family relationships and make them healthy and lasting. © 1989 Time: 34:00

• Relapse (V201) - Reg. $200
• Family (V202) - Reg. $200
• Doing a 4th & 5th Step (V203) - Reg. $200
• Seeking and Finding Your Higher Power (V204) - Reg. $200
• Unresolved Anger (V205) - Reg. $200

We can learn the dynamics of healthy and unhealthy relationships and how to prosper in intimacy. © 1985 Time: 27:15

It takes effort. Knowing what you are doing. The more we understand what our relationships are about and the more conscious effort we are willing to put into our relationships, the better our chances will be of getting what we want. Comes with a guidebook. © 1989 Time: 3+ hrs

• Stage II, Part 1 (V101) - Reg. $200
• Stage II, Part 2 (V102) - Reg. $200
• Relationships (V103) - Reg. $200
• Working a Program (V104) - Reg. $200

• Taking Personal Responsibility - Fighting the Good Fight (V601) - Reg. $200
• Avoiding the Slips - Working a Program of Inches (V602) - Reg. $200
• Building Up Our Self-Esteem - Where Giants Walk (V603) - Reg. $200
• Rage is Optional - Learning to Deal With Our Rage and Anger (V604) - Reg. $200

Regardless of where we came from, what our parents did or didn't do to or for us, what about us now? What do we need to do now? Where we live is up to us! ©1993 Time: 31.57

We are all seeded in the past. Our "old lies" were internalized in the past. Unconsciously those "old lies" became the "rails" the train of our lives traveled on. They and the decisions made from them became our "normal." Identifying what those "old lies" are, where they came from and how they gained such power in our lives is a great help in letting them go and moving on.

Coming to grips with a "lie" we have internalized about ourselves that becomes the data upon which our decisions are made. Bad data equals bad decisions which always leads to painful consequences.

The anatomy of self-esteem, keys to greater success, personal application and how to do it.

What is self-esteem and how shame affects our self-esteem. The shame cycle and how to build a positive self-esteem. Self-esteem and the connections with relationships, spirituality and financial responsibility.

What is at the core of busyness issues, your right to choose your identity and concrete steps for healing.

What is at the core of food issues, your right to choose your identity and concrete steps for healing.

What is at the core of money issues, your right to choose your identity and concrete steps for healing.

Raising low self-esteem is an essential part of the healing process for those of us recovering from addictions and those who still feel the pain of childhood wounds or abuse. These enlightening meditations address topics such as: how to define ourselves in terms of our own standards and values, how to recognize the difference between conceit and self-approval, how self-doubt triggers unattractive behavior, and how self-esteem blooms when we have a sense of purpose in our lives.

What constitutes Self-Confidence. The key to building Self-Confidence and how to maintain a healthy Self-Confidence once it is attained. © 1991 Time: 29:19

Know that we matter and make such a difference in this world! We can't give what we don't have. We can be giants in our walk. Will we choose to live in the toilet or a palace? ©1993 Time: 32:22

Why Discouragement must always be confronted along the journey of growth. The several causes of Discouragement. And specific powerful strategies in overcoming Discouragement. © 1991 Time 29:00

• Five Myths that Sabotage Recovery (V401) - Reg. $200
• Dealing with Denial (V402) - Reg. $200
• Kissing Guilt & Shame Goodbye (V403) - Reg. $200

What guilt is and is not. How to recognize guilt when a shame attack strikes. And sure fire methods of avoiding falling prey to guilt. © 1991 Time: 28:57

Set of 3 videos containing the following titles;

• Building Self-Confidence (V501) - Reg. $200
• Overcoming Fear (V502) - Reg. $200
• Dealing With Discouragement (V503) - Reg. $200

• Taking Personal Responsibility - Fighting the Good Fight (V601) - Reg. $200
• Avoiding the Slips - Working a Program of Inches (V602) - Reg. $200
• Building Up Our Self-Esteem - Where Giants Walk (V603) - Reg. $200
• Rage is Optional - Learning to Deal With Our Rage and Anger (V604) - Reg. $200

Sometimes people are well aware of who hurt them in the past or present. Often becoming self-aware (through doing understanding the past and inner child work) brings to the surface resentments long held but not consciously recognized. All hurts must be forgiven. Not to forgive is to sentence self to a ceaseless cycle of pain. Therefore it is important to know what forgiveness means and what it does not mean.

Letting go of what holds us back is a supreme act of self-compassion. But letting go of what hurts us is often no easy task. If it were we would have done it long ago. Here are concrete steps of discovering WHAT we need to let go of and WHY it is important and HOW to accomplish this critical step as we move along the process of passing to a deeper spiritual freedom.

We seek guides and direction. There is no such thing as virtual spirituality. People can only experience their spirituality, live their truth. The journey is unique to each of us. But there are markers. There are guidelines. This identifies these markers using seven Specific Steps .

This powerful, seven-step healing process is drawn from Larsen's 30 years as a pioneering addiction recovery counselor as well as his personal healing journey. With wise stories and profound insight, Larsen shows us how we can follow our own path toward healing, "In the beginning and in the end, healing is about change. The pages here are about the spiritual alchemy involved in the amazing-grace process of personal transformation."

Sometimes people are well aware of who hurt them in the past or present. Often becoming self-aware (through doing understanding the past and inner child work) brings to the surface resentments long held but not consciously recognized. All hurts must be forgiven. Not to forgive is to sentence self to a ceaseless cycle of pain. Therefore it is important to know what forgiveness means and what it does not mean.

Letting go of what holds us back is a supreme act of self-compassion. But letting go of what hurts us is often no easy task. If it were we would have done it long ago. Here are concrete steps of discovering WHAT we need to let go of and WHY it is important and HOW to accomplish this critical step as we move along the process of passing to a deeper spiritual freedom.

Topics such as boundaries, balance and discernment, Dealing with the disease of "hurry up," understanding expectations, dealing with difficult people, who and shy to take care of yourself, breaking the stress cycle, healing memories toward parents, what to do with your wounded child, dealing with discouragement, achieving emotional management and how to get a positive response from others.

Raising low self-esteem is an essential part of the healing process for those of us recovering from addictions and those who still feel the pain of childhood wounds or abuse. These enlightening meditations address topics such as: how to define ourselves in terms of our own standards and values, how to recognize the difference between conceit and self-approval, how self-doubt triggers unattractive behavior, and how self-esteem blooms when we have a sense of purpose in our lives.

Set of 5 videos containing the following titles;

• The Basics (V801) - Reg. $200
• Working The Steps (V802) - Reg. $200
• Emotional Management (V803) - Reg. $200
• Working Your Personal Program (V804) - Reg. $200
• Healing The Deeper Hurt...Stage III Recovery (V805) - Reg. $200

Connecting the dots between understanding "the solution" and creating a 'spiritual awakening' are important elements in establishing the kind of recovery as the Founders saw it. ©2007 Time: 28:00